How to help others by helping yourself

I can’t take credit for these tips but I thought they were too good not to share.

I’ve mentioned I read a lot of parenting and baby books. Right now I’m reading two plus a Canada Reads book that has nothing to do with babies!

One of the baby books is about post partum depression. I’m fortunate that I didn’t suffer from it but I know moms who have. It’s serious business, and it’s an illness, and IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT. I thought these affirmations were worth sharing.

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Taken from This Isn't What I Expected by Karen R. Kleiman, MSW, and Valerie D. Raskin, MD

Even if you’ve never had PPD, and even if you aren’t a parent, we all get overwhelmed and spiral. I know I can be my own worst enemy – trying to do too much. We buy into this notion that we HAVE to do it all when it’s neither necessary nor feasible.

For me, I likely start to feel stress about work and how I should be doing it. Then I think about the laundry that needs washing, how I can’t remember the last time I scrubbed a toilet, that I should cook some food, book an annual physical, wouldn’t a massage and/or haircut be nice….The list goes on and on. But the reality is almost all of it can wait.

We moms need to cut ourselves some slack. So the next time I’m having a rough day, I’m going to try and recite some of these:

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Taken from This Isn't What I Expected by Karen R. Kleiman, MSW, and Valerie D. Raskin, MD

So cut yourself some slack. (By the way, I know this is easier said than done. I need to remind myself of this regularly. I, too, buy into the pressure sometimes! It’s a work in progress.) In doing so, you’re actually helping other moms, too, by showing them that you can’t nor do you have to do everything. We’d all be happier if we could let go of this pressure to be perfect. No one is. And doing all your chores instead of taking a nap won’t change that, so seriously, take the nap or the snuggle. There’ll be plenty of time (years) for the rest (no pun intended).

And if you have time, check out this book but don’t fret if you don’t! That’s why I wanted to share some of what I read. Keep on keepin’ on, mamas. Be kind to yourself and by extension, you’re being kind to others.

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